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When, if ever, is it okay to snoop on your significant other? Have you ever?
Let me answer this definitively, once and for all.

It is never, ever, ever, ever, EVER OK to snoop on your significant other. Ever. If you do not trust that person, they should not be your significant other. If you are snooping just to find dirt to use at a later date, you do not deserve a significant other. If you're naturally paranoid and thinking that you're going to get hurt, you need to calm down. If you happen to be right, relax, they'll screw up somewhere along the line.

I admit I've had a few dealbreakers with women. But one of the biggest, most non-negotiable deal breakers is if I know my woman is doing background checks on me, or is looking through my email or what have you. Anyone doing that does not deserve my time or consideration.

If a situation comes up where I feel that I need to get more information, and just asking her isn't going to satisfy my curiosity, then maybe it's time to just cut out the middleman and end it. Strange how that's usually not an option to people who would resort to such cowardly tactics.

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shotglass
Feb. 3rd, 2011 05:30 am (UTC)
Seriously. If I ever felt the "need" to check up on the person I'm dating, RELATIONSHIP AND/OR PERSONAL EVALUATION TIME. Because something's going wrong. If I feel like I can no longer trust who I'm with to be honest with me, the relationship is in a bad place that sneaking around isn't going to fix.

I'm embarrassed to admit that MANY of my offline friends thing that this is perfectly legit and part of a normal relationship. Right down to checking their SO's voicemail or going through his/her Facebook. I once point-blank asked a roommate why she was with a man she didn't trust. She said "Oh, all men are like that, you just have to keep them in line." My level of speechless was through the roof.
burning_phoneix
Feb. 3rd, 2011 05:58 am (UTC)
But what if she's being extorted by a powerful crime syndicate and doesn't want to endanger you by letting you in on the secret?!

SHIT LIKE THIS HAPPENS IN REAL LIFE!
samuraiter
Feb. 3rd, 2011 11:45 am (UTC)
I agree. One ought not to be intrusive, trust being the keystone of a relationship and all that. At the same time, though, one ought to maintain elevated levels of security on the Internet and PC. No sense leading anybody into temptation, no matter how pure their motives might be.
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